Advise For All Break Ups: Shin: "Loved him so much"From China
Dr Tra, I am w...: Shin: "Loved him so much" From China Dr Tra, I am writing to share with you the pain i am experiencing from my ex. He was the...
Friday, March 4, 2016
Shin: "Loved him so much"
From China
Dr Tra, I am writing to share with you the pain i am experiencing from my ex. He was the first one in my life. He took my virginity, and we got married. After 9 years, we went through bitter divorced. He hates me, and I hate him too, and the pain and hate grow more every day, how can i get ride of it. Help me"
Advise from Dr Tra
Dear Shin, I am sorry to hear your story. It is almost the same story we all go through when we have loved someone very much. We get the felling that all this love was wasted and we regret it. Loving someone is not like an investment for profit even if it sounds like it. Loving is our nature. When we love we are one with nature and with ourselves. Not loving is dysfunctional to our well being. Please don't feel as if you waste your love. The way you get over the pain, is to forgive yourself first. Forgive yourself even if it is not your fault. Forgive yourself and forgive the one you loved. This is the beginning of your healing. And review the good time you had, face it, and remember the time you were happy with the other one. I know it is not easy, but, it is necessary because for every pain in your heart peace and good feeling must replace. When you are able to do that, you will start being at ease with what had happen. Don't wait for the other to ask for forgiveness, don't count on it. For your healing all is in your hands, so start your healing process today.
If you can do this exercise, write to me, for the next actions to take to for you total healing.
Please Shin, stay strong. You can love again. Start forgiving yourself first.
Dr Tra
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